What is a “High-Value Man” or HVM for short? It is a term most commonly used by Red Pill creators and influencers describing men who are the personification of what women tend to be attracted to. You are considered a High-Value Male if you have these 3 “characteristics”.
Rich
Muscular
A Womanizer
They typically bash those who do not pursue this lifestyle, labeling such men as having low self-esteem because they allegedly allow women to walk all over them or become dependent on them, generalizing a scenario wherein said women will eventually leave them for a much more “successful male”. This viewpoint is not only destructive in how it undermines the self-worth of both men and women but also perpetuates harmful stereotypes about relationships and masculinity. It disregards every other aspect of relationships and places it in a box, even though we human beings are such complex creatures.
Do these men have “high self esteem” or do they simply claim that they have high self-esteem? Let’s dive into this right away.
How about we try and define what self-esteem is first before we proceed?
Self-esteem is a subjective evaluation a person believes that they can provide. It is based on how they value their worth, capabilities, abilities, etc. Self-esteem typically reflects how a person views themselves, whether they are worthy or unworthy. Do people naturally have high self-esteem?
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Are those 3 things the primary basis to determine whether you have high self-esteem or have succeeded in life? These are dreams an average male might have every once in a while, but these are not the true basis of success because objectively speaking, there are more ways to see whether one has achieved success even if they do not show that “high self-esteem” lifestyle.
Self-Acceptance and Authenticity: Feeling comfortable with who you are, including acknowledging your own strengths and weaknesses, are signs of high self esteem. The simple awareness of what kind of person you are is enough to determine that your self esteem is at a health level.
Personal Growth and Development: If you are proud of learning new skills and achieving personal goals, along with learning from your failures, then you do not need to worry about your self esteem.
Emotional Resilience and Coping Skills: You can navigate and manage your emotions without giving in to the first thought that comes to mind, this shows that you do not have anything to prove, as well as signs of maturity.
Empathy and Compassion: The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back. Developing empathy and valuing another’s perspective and feelings is a sign of high self esteem because it shows that you are mature enough to realize that there is more than meets the eye, that there is beyond surface level understanding as to why certain people act the way they do.
Healthy Relationships: Lastly, being able to maintain and build meaningful connections based on mutual respect and support are signs of a high self esteem. This shows consistency in how you treat others, and how they view you as an individual.
In conclusion, avoid categorizing yourself into a group of personalities with 'High Self-Esteem,' as it confines you to a predefined box. People have individual definitions of success and high self-esteem. Instead, strive to be the best version of yourself because the only person you should compete with is the one in the mirror.
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